To Be Loved

Everyone wants to be loved from birth. As babies we cry out unable to communicate in any other way for the love and affection of anyone whom will feed us and keep us warm. with our first breath we are hit with the fact that this is a cold and cruel world. If we are not born already screaming the doctor will slap us on the ass to get us going. They know we must cry to show we can make it in this world and if you dont know how to cry you not gonna make it to far. We need to be loved. We need to love . Love is not something that is taught however it can be learned. Our need for love is only our natural instinct to feel safe,secure ,warm and happy. As children as well as adults we tend to love those that hurt us the same as those who return the love and provide protection. We need to love just as much as we need love. It is almost instinct to forgive someone we love, love is hard to lose. People fall in love [or so they say] all the time but the last i checked nobody but stuntmen fall on purpose. Falling in love is a mistake that can cause serious injury to a person physically, mentally,emotionally,spiritually just like any other fall. Love is not a game to be played with like most do. The effects can be severe. I wanted so badly to be loved that I lost myself and created this character that I thought would please my mate and instead he saw me as gullible and easily manipulated. I tried my best to please him in hopes of one day him returning he favor....maybe he will see how much I love him and love me back theory. Instead I got the she love me so she not going to leave me so why not lie,cheat,steal treatment. Guess he had a different theory. Meanwhile I suffer year after year hoping his promise not to do it again is validated ,living in pain and misery wearing a smile the whole time in the name of LOVE. How many women with black eyes, broke ribs living in misery answer the infamous question with the oh so infamous answer..Why do you stay ?.....Because I love him. Bet you knew without reading what the answer was. I have a different question to which I only have gotten a blank look. Why don't you love yourself enough to were you feel you deserve not to be loved by.....?  I was told as a child..treat people how you want to be treated but treat yourself how you want others to treat you ! It does not stop with how to treat others. People are going to treat you like the maid if you run around cleaning up there mess not run behind you to clean up yours but if you treat yourself like royalty those without strength,confidence,high self value and confidence will not even show up for try outs to be in your league. Long story short, To be loved you must first love God {your creator}and then yourself . If you don't love yourself enough to only accept the very best you will end up loving not being loved.